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"We're" Doing This, Not "I'm" Doing This to You

Business

"We're" Doing This, Not "I'm" Doing This to You

Frei and Morriss's change-leadership research makes a specific claim: the story you tell about a transformation shapes belief before the transformation itself has proven anything.
developing·concept·1 source··Jul 10, 2026

"We're" Doing This, Not "I'm" Doing This to You

Frei and Morriss's change-leadership research makes a specific claim: the story you tell about a transformation shapes belief before the transformation itself has proven anything. Get the story right, and people believe in the change before there's evidence to confirm it. Get it wrong, and even a good change reads as an imposition.1

The Specific Framing Choice

"Your story can transform your organization by shaping attitudes and beliefs, starting with your own... your story starts to become their reality."1

Applied to the pop pivot, this shows up as a specific rhetorical choice: framing the reinvention as a shared journey the audience is part of — "we're going somewhere together" — rather than a unilateral decision announced from above and delivered to a passive audience expected to simply accept it.

Why the Difference Between "We" and "I Decided" Matters

It's worth being precise about what actually changes when a reinvention gets framed as "we" rather than "I." The underlying decision is identical either way — the artist alone chose the new direction, the audience had no actual input into it. What changes is the audience's felt relationship to that decision.

"I decided this, and now you'll experience it" positions the audience as a recipient of someone else's choice. "We're going on this journey together" positions the audience as a participant in something unfolding collectively, even though the actual decision-making process didn't involve them any more than the first framing would suggest. The reality is unchanged. The felt experience of that reality is not.

Implementation Workflow

You're the sole decision-maker behind a significant change, and you need an audience or stakeholder group who had no actual input into the decision to feel invested in it anyway.

Frei and Morriss's research suggests the framing you choose to communicate the change matters as much as the change's actual substance, at least for how readily it gets accepted. Reaching for collective, shared-journey language, rather than unilateral, decision-announcement language, can shape how the audience experiences a decision they had no real part in making — not by changing the underlying facts, but by changing the story wrapped around them.

The Risk of This Framing Feeling Manipulative If Overused

It's worth naming a real risk this tactic carries: "we" framing applied to a decision the audience genuinely had zero input into can, if overused or applied too transparently, start to feel like a rhetorical trick rather than a genuine invitation — language doing work to manufacture a feeling of inclusion that isn't actually backed by any real inclusion in the underlying process.

That risk is probably highest when the framing is the only thing connecting the audience to the change — when there's no actual mechanism (direct engagement, responsiveness to feedback, genuine two-way communication) backing up the "we" language with anything real. The framing works best, and feels least manipulative, when it's paired with at least some genuine points of real audience involvement elsewhere in the relationship, rather than functioning as pure rhetorical substitute for actual inclusion.

Evidence, Tensions, and Open Questions

Frei and Morriss's change-leadership research is independently documented, not invented for this book. The tension: it's hard to isolate, from outside, how much of the audience's actual acceptance of the pop pivot is attributable to this specific framing choice versus simply the quality of the music itself — good work wrapped in poor framing might still succeed, and this framing wrapped around weak work might still fail, which makes the framing's independent causal contribution hard to isolate.

Author Tensions & Convergences

The book presents this framing choice as clearly effective without examining the manipulation risk named above — treating "we" language as a straightforwardly positive communication tactic, without acknowledging that the same tactic, applied cynically or without any real backing, can curdle into something audiences eventually recognize as empty rhetorical positioning rather than genuine inclusion.

Cross-Domain Handshakes

Continuity Signaling During Transformation — this "we" framing and that page's continuity-signaling both serve the same underlying goal (making a unilateral change feel less like an imposition), operating through different mechanisms: this page changes the pronoun and the felt relationship, that page changes what gets explicitly named as staying the same.

The Live Edge

Sharpest implication: the story wrapped around a decision can shape how it's received as much as the decision's own substance — but that framing only stays credible over time if it's backed by at least some genuine points of real involvement, not pure rhetorical positioning applied to a decision that was, and remained, entirely unilateral.

Generative questions:

  • How would you tell, from inside an audience being addressed this way, whether "we" framing reflects genuine invitation or purely rhetorical positioning — is there an observable difference, or does it only become clear over a longer relationship?
  • Does this framing lose effectiveness with repeated use, the way any rhetorical device can start to feel formulaic once an audience recognizes the pattern?

Connected Concepts

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createdJul 10, 2026
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